Volume 1 Issue 10
Heart and
Sole
Spring-Summer 2003
Newsletter
When I write a newsletter it is usually the result of learning something I
think others might find fascinating. A friend told me
about the book Please Understand Me II by David Keinsey.
After reading it, I want to share a small portion of the book with
you. I hope you find this volume of Heart and Sole fun, worthy of note,
thought-provoking, and interesting. ---Enjoy.
Hope you have been taking time to come in for Reflexology Sessions. If not think about it. Take time for yourself
and call (334)358-3990 for an appointment
If a dog were your teacher, you would learn stuff
like…
1. When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
2. Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
3. The experience of fresh air and the wind in your face would be pure
ecstasy.
4. Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory.
5. Take naps and stretch before rising.
6. Run, romp, and play daily.
7. Thrive on attention.
8. Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
9. On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
10. On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
11. When you are happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
12. No matter how often you’re scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and
pout…run right back and make friends.
13. Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
14. Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.
15. Be loyal.
16. Never pretend to be something you are not.
17. If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
--Barbara Blocker
Be Yourself
The man who craves disciples and wants followers is always more or less of a
charlatan. The man of genuine worth and insight wants to be himself; and he
wants others to be themselves, also. ---Elbert Hubbard
Take a Breather
According to a recent interview with Dr. Phil, we have moved from the fast lane
to the laser lane. For many people each minute of the day is
scheduled. This leads to stress and high blood pressure, and we have less
and less time to"take a breather".
Take a vacation right now. It is only a breath away. One of the
newest things to our area is an oxygen bar. You breathe oxygen for 15
minutes. The desired results is
relaxation. We have our own built in oxygen bar,
we just need to use it.
There is a quiet music within us, a sound that we can tune into anytime no
matter where we are. It is the still voice of our breath. Tuning
into your breath is like setting your radio dial to the peace channel that
broadcasts day and night. Breathing in and breathing out is a lullaby
that has been gently rocking you since the moment your were
born. The ebb and flow of your breath is a private ocean touching your
intimate shore. Pause and listen to your breath’s rise and fall, it is
the voice of Mother Nature.
When did we stop breathing fully? When did we begin to constrain our
breath, tighten our chest, and limit the flow of air.
Was there a close call, a shocking episode, that
tightened this constriction.
One way to steady your breath without constricting it is by placing the palm of
your one hand gently over your breastbone. Place the other hand lightly
on your belly. As you do this feel how your breath becomes calmer and
slower, and notice how much more peaceful you feel.
When you breathe, you welcome and receive oxygen into your lungs. From
there, the oxygen becomes distributed throughout the body by way of the
bloodstream. The oxygen that travels along these pathways brings life to all
your cells.
The beauty of "taking a breather" is that it is available to us at
all times of the day or night. It can be used for stress relief, on a
moment’s notice. The next time we need some stress relief, why not take
several slow, deep breaths and watch the stress begin to
melt away.
"If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he
hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears,
however measured or far away."
- Henry David Thoreau
Popular sayings as "to each his own," different strokes for different
folks," and "do your own thing," express something that can be
put to use in everyday life.
I have learned that the apparent deficiencies in a person’s characteristic ways
of dealing with the world are offset by natural strengths in different
areas. We don’t require that a great painter be a wise teacher, nor that a trusted accountant be a great physicist.
Temperaments naturally show us different patterns of intelligent behavior.
We all, according to our inclinations differ. They deserve to be respected for
what they are.
Perhaps it is important to remember that we must
not judge either ourselves or others harshly, when our (or their) values,
preferences, and style of experiencing and dealing with the world are
different.
---Ray Choiniere
The above Foreword is for the book, Please
Understand Me II by David Keinsey.
A friend and I were discussing how we enjoyed reading psychology books and how
some had such a profound effect on our
lives. The above book is one which came to her mind. I ordered the
book and I agree.
We are dissimilar from each other in distinctive ways. Examples of a
few of these are: our feelings and emotions, likes and dislikes (food,
clothing, exercises, music), perception, values,
preferences in styles in experiencing and dealing with the world. We
communicate in our own way. We learn different things at school and we
choose different types of work or careers.
Differences are around us and be easily seen. The variations in action
and attitude can trigger an all too human response. We might set out to
change or correct another’s action and attitude.
The task of sculpting others into our likeness, fails before it begins.
When we ask someone to change their character, we ask the impossible. We
can be pressured by others to change our inner person, but in conforming to
their wishes we lose a part of self.
Much to be gained by appreciating differences, and much to be
lost by ignoring or condemning them.
Please Understand Me II, contains "The Keinsey Temperament Sorter II questionnaire. Scoring
directions are provided. By answering these questions we determine our
temperament type. The remainder of the book details the qualities, inclination
of the 16 character - temperament types, including our own.
What would the world be like if we all had the same likes and the same dislikes
in all areas of our life. It is better to
cooperate, appreciate our and others individual qualities instead of attempting
to sculpt each other into our own likeness.
If you would like to take a look at the questionnaire on line
check out this website: http://www.advisorteam.com/
There is a place for all of us and a need for all of us. Our uniqueness
is what makes us one of a kind.
The man or woman who delights in, recognizes, and encourages the individuality
of others is a joy to experience.
Native American Wisdom
Your mind must be like a tipi. Leavethe entrance flap open sothat
fresh air can enter andclear out the smoke of
confusion.- Chiefeagle,
Teton Sioux
You must speak straightso that your words may goas sunlight into our hearts.- Cochise, Chiricahua Apache
The Native American believes profoundly in silence ---the sign of a perfect
equilibrium. Silence is the absolute poise or balance of body, mind, and
spirit.
The man who preserves his selfhood is ever
calm and unshaken
by the storms of existence...
What are the fruits of silence?
They are self-control, true courage or endurance,
patience, dignity, and reverence.
Silence is the cornerstone of character.
- Ohiyesa, Santee Sioux
Recommended
Please Understand Me II
by David Keinsey
A morning cup of YOGA
by Jane Goad Trechsel